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Straight Talk About Faking It

Original Source: http://www.oprah.com
Original Publication Date: September 16, 2002

Many women feel the pressure to fake orgasms in order to protect their partners’ feelings. However, this leaves them feeling isolated and alone, and often leads to anger and resentment. It is important to separate the issues of desire and sexual response. Laura Berman, Ph.D and Jennifer Berman, M.D. offer their suggestions for dealing with this problem.

Bring the subject up when you are in a peaceful moment together. Don’t wait until he is trying to be sexual with you or when you are arguing about this or anything else. Tell your partner how you feel. That means focusing on you. Explain that while you love him and find him attractive, you feel: (a) cut off from yourself sexually in a general sense (b) a lack of sexual drive overall (c) a lack of genital sensation (d) or whatever scenario applies.

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